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January: Launching My Personal Happiness Project

Happy New Year!  

What a happy day it is for me, because even though it’s just another day, that psychological effect of knowing it’s a “new year” has me feeling like the slate is wiped clean.

A clean slate was needed here at The Borrowed Abode, because though 2012 was a year of great joys – welcoming my brother’s beautiful new son, welcoming a best friend’s new baby, getting married (truly the best day of my life), spending more time with family and friends, and seeing my shop succeed – it was also a year of inadequacies.  The house got messier, half-finished projects stacked up, and I consistently felt like I was failing as a blogger and a homemaker.

Enter some much-needed inspiration with which to welcome the new year:  The Happiness Project, by Gretchen Rubin.  I received it for Christmas and I am finding it so inspiring, even though I already consider myself a happy person.

The Happiness Project chronicles the author’s year-long journey to seek a happier life.  I had a major light bulb moment while reading through the first chapter of her journey – January.  Two things spoke to me:  clearing clutter and “getting things done.“  I’m good at clearing clutter, but not good at the latter.

She discusses how completing those nagging-at-the-back-of-your-mind tasks can do wonders for your happiness. Running little errands you’ve put off.  Finishing tasks you started and then abandoned.  Taking that extra 30 seconds to hang your coat up instead of slinging it over the back of a chair.

As soon as I read this chapter I knew what I had to do.

January Goals 2013 | The Borrowed Abode

Why is clearing the clutter so important?  The less junk you have, the easier it is to keep your home clean.  I used to think having tons of clothes and underwear and linens was great – longer time to wait before doing laundry, right?  While that’s technically true, it also means that when you do run out of clean stuff, you’re facing towers of dirty laundry that could take days to wash, dry, and put away.  For the last few months Ryan and I have been trying to make more room at the abode, but this past week we became much more ruthless in pairing down.

Because Ryan and I spent the last week clearing the clutter, we are ready to move on to the second big goal: 

Finish Abandoned Tasks. 

Oh my.  The list, in my head, of abandoned tasks is something that truly eats away at my happiness on a daily basis.  Finishing the guest room.  Framing and hanging art.  Touching up paint on the walls.  Reupholstering chairs.

Not all of my “abandoned tasks” are home decor related.  Some are blog-related.  There are wedding DIY posts I want to share, but have not because I’m embarrassed that the wedding was 6 months ago.

I’m throwing fear of rejection to the wind, and I’m  going to write those blog posts anyway.  I need to do it to clear my mind.

Now raise your hand if you’re in a similar boat.  Who wants to join me in making January the Month of Getting Things Done? 

 

Decorate Book Signing & Blogger Meetup

One of the highlights – ok, the biggest highlight – of my mostly-work trip to SoCal was meeting up with several bloggers at the Decorate book signing & mood board event with Holly Becker!

Do you know about Holly?  Her blog Decor8 is full of beautiful inspiration, fabulous home tours, and peeks at unique businesses and artists.  I also love Holly’s sense of style, so I knew when she published a book that I had to check it out.  The spaces on her blog, I think of them as more “real,” yet still beautiful and almost perfect.

But even better than her blog is her e-course Blogging Your Way.  I took the course last fall, and it exceeded my expectations.  I learned a lot but was also just inspired so much by Holly’s stories and approach.  Her weekly podcasts were definitely a highlight.  The course is actually open for registration again, and I highly recommend it.  There were hundreds of people in the course, but somehow I connected with a few, primarily Kelly of the blog EverKelly. Continue reading

Blissdom: @UnMarketing made it awesome.

What made my decision to drive-overnight-to-Nashville-with-three-strangers more worth the risk than anything else?  The closing keynote address at Blissdom, given by Scott Stratten.  Both he and his book, UnMarketing, kick ass.  And not just because he’s willing to dress up like a princess.


His closing session was so full of great nuggets that instead of sharing one huge wrap-up post about Blissdom, I’m sharing my takeaways from his session all by themselves, because I want you people to read this!

Blissdom ’11 Closing Keynote Address from Scott Stratten (@UnMarketing)

On Blog Comments & CAPTCHA:

Only 1-3% of your readers will comment on your posts.

We all love blog comments, right?  They make us feel all warm and fuzzy and validated.  So why do we keep doing things to discourage commenters?

Those “CAPTCHA” things where you have to type in a word before submitting your comment?  Scott had one thing to say about that:  “NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.”

(I agree . . there’s nothing more frustrating when commenting than having to jump through hoops just to click “submit.”)

9 out of 10 times blog comment moderation is not necessary.  There’s nothing more discouraging to a reader than to share their thoughts only to be faced with “This blog comment is awaiting moderation.”  It keeps them from being able to immediately join in the conversation.

(I personally have spam protection built in with my WordPress blog, so it’s never really an issue.)

If you are going to have comment moderation enabled, customize the message to make it more friendly and personal.

Recommendation: Use the Disqus plugin for threaded comments.  Also, it emails you when someone comments on the blog, and you can reply to the comment via email (and have it show up on the blog).

On marketing:

Marketing is not a task.  Every time you engage with someone, you are marketing yourself.

Marketing isn’t hard.  You just have to care about people.

People do business with people they know, like, and trust.  So what are you doing to increase these three factors?

In regards to blog success:

People spread awesome.  Awesomely sweet. Awesomely great. Awesomely horrible.  Awesomely funny.  People don’t spread “just ok.” Therefore, blog when you have something awesome to say.

When you haven’t posted for a while, and you do finally post, you want people’s reactions to be “OH HOLY MOSES, HE FINALLY POSTED!  I HAVE TO GO READ IT!”

Just be honest with yourself:  you know when you’ve created the awesome, just as well as you know when you’re just creating “content.”  If you’re more focused on posting frequently than on posting “awesomeness” – that’s lame.

On making your site user-friendly:

Make your site mobile-ready.  Check how it looks on an iPad, Droid, iPhone, etc.  Scott recommends the WP Touch WordPress plugin to help make it more mobile-friendly.

On SEO (Search Engine Optimization):

We tend to over-SEO stuff.

Nobody ever said “This article is ok, but wow, I love how it’s keyword optimized!”

On “contact me” forms on websites:

For every field you add to a form, there is a 10-30% loss of registration.  In other words, the more fields you have, the fewer people will actually fill the form out.  Keep it quick-n-easy!

On social media platforms:

You can’t use every site all the time, so choose a primary platform and stick with it.  Twitter? Facebook?

If you use Twitter, you can get your stats at TweetStats.com

Twitter is all about building relationships.

The great thing about sharing info on Twitter:  you’re not spamming people, you’re sharing items and then they can choose if they want to check it out.

On negativity:

The more emotional currency you spend worrying about trolls and negativity, the less you have to spend on those you care about.

And that concludes the nuggets I can share from Scott’s speech.  I wish you could have been there – he was 100% awesome, shared 100% interesting and helpful info, with about 50% stand-up comic.  Want more?  Go buy his book.  It’s totally worth it.

PS:  Now that you’re done reading, here are some awesome links:

Disclaimer:  No, I was not compensated for talking about how awesome Scott and his book are.  It’s my 100% my personal opinion. But if you buy his book through my link, I do get a minuscule bit of dough.

Blissdom ’11 Closing Keynote Address from Scott Stratten (@UnMarketing)

What made my decision to drive-overnight-with-3-strangers-to-nashville-in-a-snowstorm more worth the risk than anything else? The closing keynote address at Blissdom, given by Scott Stratten. Both he and his book, UnMarketing, kick ass.

His closing session was so full of great nuggets that instead of sharing one huge wrap-up post about Blissdom, I’m sharing my takeaways from his session all by themselves, because I want you people to READ THIS!

Do I have your attention now?

On Blog Comments & CAPTCHA:

Bloggers, listen up! Only 1-3% of your readers will comment on your posts.

We all love blog comments, right? They make us feel all warm and fuzzy and validated. So why do we keep doing things to discourage commenters?

Those “CAPTCHA” things where you have to type in a word before submitting your comment? Scott had one thing to say about that:

“NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.”

(I agree . . there’s nothing more frustrating when commenting than having to jump through hoops just to click “submit.”)

9 out of 10 times blog comment moderation is not necessary. There’s nothing more discouraging to a reader than to share their thoughts only to be faced with “This blog comment is awaiting moderation.” It keeps them from being able to immediately join in the conversation.

(I personally have spam protection built in with my WordPress blog, so it’s never really an issue.)

If you are going to have comment moderation enabled, customize the message to make it more friendly and personal.

Recommendation: Use the Disqus plugin for threaded comments. Also, it emails you when someone comments on the blog, and you can reply to the comment via email (and have it show up on the blog).

On marketing:

Marketing is not a task. Every time you engage with someone, you are marketing yourself.

Marketing isn’t hard. You just have to care about people.

People do business with people they know, like, and trust. So what are you doing to increase these three factors?

In regards to things going “viral” online:

People spread awesome. Awesomely sweet. Awesomely great. Awesomely horrible. Awesomely funny. Not “just ok.”

Therefore, blog when you have something awesome to say.

Here’s what you want to create with your blog: When you haven’t posted for a while, and you do finally post, you want people’s reactions to be “OH HOLY MOSES, HE FINALLY POSTED! I HAVE TO GO READ IT!”

And be honest with yourself: you know when you’ve created the awesome, just as well as you know when you’re just creating “content.” If you’re more focused on posting frequently than on posting “awesomeness” – that’s not good.

On making your site user-friendly:

Make your site mobile-ready. Check how it looks on an iPad, Droid, iPhone, etc. Scott recommends the WP Touch WordPress plugin to help make it more mobile-friendly.

On SEO (Search Engine Optimization):

We tend to over-SEO stuff.

Nobody ever said “This article is ok, but wow, I love how it’s keyword optimized!”

On “contact me” forms on websites:

For every field you add to a form, there is a 10-30% loss of registration. In other words, the more fields you have, the fewer people will actually fill the form out. Keep it quick-n-easy!

On social media platforms:

You can’t use every site all the time, so choose a primary platform and stick with it. Twitter? Facebook?

If you use Twitter, you can get your stats at TweetStats.com

Twitter is all about building relationships.

The great thing about sharing info on Twitter: you’re not spamming people, you’re sharing items and then they can choose if they want to check it out.

On negativity:

The more emotional currency you spend worrying about trolls and negativity, the less you have to spend on those you care about.

- – -

And that concludes the nuggets I can share from Scott’s speech. I wish you could have been there – he was 100% awesome, shared 100% interesting and helpful info, with about 50% stand-up comic. Want more? Go buy his book. It’s totally worth it.

You can watch his entire closing address here:

PS: Now that you’re done reading, here are some awesome links:

· My insane overnight drive to Nashville with strangers

· Follow UnMarketing on Twitter

·

Blissdom ’11 Closing Keynote Address from Scott Stratten (@UnMarketing)

What made my decision to drive-overnight-with-3-strangers-to-nashville-in-a-snowstorm more worth the risk than anything else?  The closing keynote address at Blissdom, given by Scott Stratten.  Both he and his book, UnMarketing, kick ass.

His closing session was so full of great nuggets that instead of sharing one huge wrap-up post about Blissdom, I’m sharing my takeaways from his session all by themselves, because I want you people to READ THIS!

Do I have your attention now?

On Blog Comments & CAPTCHA:

Bloggers, listen up!  Only 1-3% of your readers will comment on your posts.

We all love blog comments, right?  They make us feel all warm and fuzzy and validated.  So why do we keep doing things to discourage commenters?

Those “CAPTCHA” things where you have to type in a word before submitting your comment?  Scott had one thing to say about that:

“NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.”

(I agree . . there’s nothing more frustrating when commenting than having to jump through hoops just to click “submit.”)

9 out of 10 times blog comment moderation is not necessary.  There’s nothing more discouraging to a reader than to share their thoughts only to be faced with “This blog comment is awaiting moderation.”  It keeps them from being able to immediately join in the conversation.

(I personally have spam protection built in with my WordPress blog, so it’s never really an issue.)

If you are going to have comment moderation enabled, customize the message to make it more friendly and personal.

Recommendation:  Use the Disqus plugin for threaded comments.  Also, it emails you when someone comments on the blog, and you can reply to the comment via email (and have it show up on the blog).

On marketing:

Marketing is not a task.  Every time you engage with someone, you are marketing yourself.

Marketing isn’t hard.  You just have to care about people.

People do business with people they know, like, and trust.  So what are you doing to increase these three factors?

In regards to things going “viral” online:

People spread awesome.  Awesomely sweet. Awesomely great. Awesomely horrible.  Awesomely funny.  Not “just ok.”

Therefore, blog when you have something awesome to say.

Here’s what you want to create with your blog:   When you haven’t posted for a while, and you do finally post, you want people’s reactions to be “OH HOLY MOSES, HE FINALLY POSTED!  I HAVE TO GO READ IT!”

And be honest with yourself:  you know when you’ve created the awesome, just as well as you know when you’re just creating “content.”  If you’re more focused on posting frequently than on posting “awesomeness” – that’s not good.

On making your site user-friendly:

Make your site mobile-ready.  Check how it looks on an iPad, Droid, iPhone, etc.  Scott recommends the WP Touch WordPress plugin to help make it more mobile-friendly.

On SEO (Search Engine Optimization):

We tend to over-SEO stuff.
Nobody ever said “This article is ok, but wow, I love how it’s keyword optimized!”

On “contact me” forms on websites:

For every field you add to a form, there is a 10-30% loss of registration.  In other words, the more fields you have, the fewer people will actually fill the form out.  Keep it quick-n-easy!

On social media platforms:

You can’t use every site all the time, so choose a primary platform and stick with it.  Twitter? Facebook?

If you use Twitter, you can get your stats at TweetStats.com

Twitter is all about building relationships.

The great thing about sharing info on Twitter:  you’re not spamming people, you’re sharing items and then they can choose if they want to check it out.

On negativity:

The more emotional currency you spend worrying about trolls and negativity, the less you have to spend on those you care about.

- – -

And that concludes the nuggets I can share from Scott’s speech.  I wish you could have been there – he was 100% awesome, shared 100% interesting and helpful info, with about 50% stand-up comic.  Want more?  Go buy his book.  It’s totally worth it.

You can watch his entire closing address here:

PS:  Now that you’re done reading, here are some awesome links:

That’s all for today.  I have more Blissdom nuggets to share, but will be spacing them out amongst regular blog posts.

Disclaimer:  No, I was not compensated for talking about how awesome Scott and his book are.  It’s my 100% my personal opinion.

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.com (created by Scott)

· Scott on making money with your blog http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T6CwR-kshUM&feature=related

That’s all for today. I have more Blissdom nuggets to share, but will be spacing them out amongst regular blog posts.

Disclaimer: No, I was not compensated for talking about how awesome Scott and his book are. It’s my 100% my personal opinion.

My first time as a “guest blogger!”

Today is a special day for me!  I’m the guest blogger over at Open Hands Full Heart.  Julia, a new mom and an always thrifty homemaker and DIYer, is running a great series this month called Christmas In July.  She’s got a ton of great bloggers sharing ideas for planning and giftmaking, and she’s doing it this month so that we all have time to actually implement these plans and ideas before the holidays arrive.  Isn’t that a great idea?

In honor of my guest post on homemade gift ideas, I thought I’d share a few of my favorite go-to sources for handmade gift inspiration.

This book, The Sweater Chop Shop, was given to me by my bro and his wife.  I love it!   It’s just oozing with great ideas for recycling old sweaters into fabulous new clothes and items.

I’m obsessed with felted wool (aka shrunken sweaters) right now, so I’m also digging the Warm Fuzzies book by Betz White.

She’s also got a great blog, where this Felted Brooch Tutorial is totally catching my eye.

Finally, I love the inspiration from Brett Bara at Manhattan Craft Room.  Take, for example, this sweet little wine bottle cozy.  Wouldn’t it be the perfect way to gift-wrap a bottle of wine for a host or hostess?

What are your favorite sources for crafting inspiration?  Apparently mine are all sewing related right now.  Any sites or books that you think I should know about?  Or are you as helpless as a fish out of water when it comes to crafting?