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Blissdom: Brene Brown’s awesome tips

I know it’s been a few weeks, but I’ve got more information to share from Blissdom.  Hope you find it useful – I know I did!

When I arrived at Blissdom straight out of the car from that 12hr overnight drive, I was so worried that I’d be too tired to function.   But I was just in time to hear the opening keynote address from Brene Brown, the author of The Gifts of Imperfection.  She did anything but put me to sleep!  Her message was one of self-confidence and strength, something that I think we, as bloggers, need to think about more often.  She’s an author, a PhD, and an overall wise, wise woman.  If you’d like to know more, you can watch her TED Talk that went viral or check out her website.

Just as with the UnMarketing recap, I’m not going to ramble on – I’m just going to share the nuggets that I jotted down.

On categorizing yourself

“Don’t reduce me to the bio box, because people have worked too hard to not fit into a bio box.”

Don’t try to be something you’re not on your blog.  It’s your blog, your space, to be yourself.

Our stories matter because we matter. Don’t orphan who you really are. Don’t make up a story about who you’re “supposed” to be. Owning our stories and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we will ever do!

On dealing with difficult decisions

Choose discomfort over resentment.

What does this mean?  Often we say “yes” to an obligation because we don’t want to feel uncomfortable, but then as we do the work required for that obligation, we build up a strong feeling of resentment. It’s OK to say NO!

On bloggers and their work

If we don’t value our work, how can we expect others to do so?

Be confident: People can feel your confidence, even online.
Advice for new bloggers

You can go far with a beautiful blog. An attractive design does help. (Note from Jane:  I’ll discuss an easy and affordable way to do this later this week.)

Buy your own domain name.

She quoted Oprah:

“You are responsible for the energy you bring into the room.”

MOST IMPORTANTLY

This was the “homework” she assigned us:
Take a small piece of paper and list the handful of people (only a handful!) whose opinions truly matter to you. People who love you – not despite your struggles – but because of your strengths and struggles. Those are the people whose opinions you should value.

That’s food for thought, huh?

Between Brene’s opening keynote, and Scott Stratten’s closing keynote, I came away from that conference with a blogging resolution:  to be myself, post what I want, when I want, and to stop worrying so damn much what others think!!  Who’s with me?

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10 Comments

  • Reply Katie at 4:07 pm

    Well, I for one like that list. I imagine it would be good to focus on those feel close people on the list as we blog instead of thinking of the bajillion people in the blog world and trying to please them all. I’m guilty of that.

    I also live in a rental. I’m quite neurotic about making it look more like my home than a rental so I’m thankful the owners are very flexible and like everything I’ve done. It wasn’t hard to improve the ugly we moved into but don’t tell them I said so. 😉 Then agian I think they knew that.

  • Reply Mimi at 5:52 pm

    Hello from a fellow renter 🙂 I’m totally with you! I found myself going in the wrong direction…..and thankfully stopped before I lost “me”. Love it….post what I want, when I want, and to stop worrying so damn much what others think!! You said a mouthful!!

    • Reply Anonymous at 5:56 pm

      Hi Mimi, and welcome! So glad you found this post helpful. 🙂

  • Reply Jenn at 7:36 pm

    I love your homework! Such food for thought … and something I really need to work on. I am really liking how you’re recapping Blissdom. I have picked up some very helpful nuggets 🙂

  • Reply Lifeinrehab at 12:54 am

    Great post, and some terrific tidbits on how to be yourself. After all, who wants to read the same blog under 100 different URLs?

  • Reply Kalanicut at 6:36 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I was definitely inspired to just hold tight to who I am and feel good about sharing things my way and do the things that I love without reservation!

  • Reply Meghan at 4:40 pm

    Thank you so much for this post. I sooo much want to start my blog but fear keeps me back. What IF no one reads it. What IF my blog isn’t as exciting as others. What if I FAIL? I guess that I just need to jump in and truly chose to blog to make my heart happy and try to get past the junior high fears of not being liked! Hard to believe that I’m 46 years old! Ha!

    • Reply Anonymous at 5:11 pm

      Meghan-
      Absolutely, start your blog!! It’s so much fun to blog, and meet others via
      blogging. Definitely don’t let fear hold you back!!
      (And in my opinion, the only way to “fail” at blogging is to not be
      yourself.)

      Be sure to stop by again and let us know when you’ve launched the blog!
      -jane

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